Our dinner table will never look the same…

38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”

41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things,42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one.[f] Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10: 38 -41

This post has been bouncing around in my head for the past few weeks, and I’m still not sure how to put it into words.  I’ve opened the computer multiple times to start the post, but I can’t seem to get past the first line.

Over the past 9 months or so, as we were preparing to transition to God’s new plan for our life, Brad and I reflected often on how we had done little to cultivate relationships in our lives.  We were saddened that it took us getting ready to leave to become more intentional with those we cared about.  Sure, we shared many great times with friends…we had great fellowship with other believers…we loved those around us deep and wide.  But, were we truly doing what God had instructed us to do?

We often fell back on the excuse of our “family time”.  We felt strongly that we had to preserve time just to grow together as a tiny family unit.  We occasionally would include extended family members here and there, when it was convenient for us, but our dinner table would often times look generic…day in and day out, the definition of “family” would be those who we were blood related to and no one else.

Ecuador has changed that definition.  In three short weeks.

I haven’t put my finger on it exactly yet – whether it is the sub-culture of gringos in a foreign land, yet still united within a Christian community.  Perhaps it is because of the transitional mentality that people have due to the steady flux of people coming and going as God calls them away or to this place of mission.  Maybe it is the underlying need to lean on others as we are all strangers in a foreign land, united in purpose but unable to carry the load solely on our own.  Whatever it is, it works here.  Family is beyond the small unit that we claim as our own.  Family are those around you, and, because of this place, my dinner table will never look the same.

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I was so self-centered.  Looking inwardly to what I wanted my family to look like, how I wanted to control our evenings, our weekends.  Being crazy busy was an excuse…we filled our lives with good things, but we may have missed the best of things.  The very thing I was doing to preserve our family unit was directly in opposition to God’s call to reach out, seek out, and minister to others.  There are people in every church, neighborhood, village, community, town, and city that need to be loved, accepted, cared for in various ways.  That is what the body of Christ is CALLED to do.  We were failing miserably, and, as a result, we were teaching our children the pattern of exclusiveness.   We stayed in the world of comfortable, and we missed opportunities to show and demonstrate God’s love to those around us.

Our eyes have seen things differently in the past few weeks.  We have been recipients of fellowship beyond what we could imagine.  We have been shown what it means to give freely, to give of yourself, and to lose yourself for the gain of others.  We saw this within our family and friendship circles back in America, but we didn’t appreciate it to the depths we do now.  Many of our friends and family did relationship well…but we have a lot to learn.

I’ve learned that it doesn’t have to be a four course meal…it’s the fellowship around the table.  It doesn’t have to be a huge letter with flowery statements…it’s the heartfelt words that matter.  It doesn’t have to be hours of time together…it’s a hug to say you care.  It doesn’t have to be an entire day of help…it’s an hour or two of purposeful time that makes a difference.   It doesn’t have to be grand…it just has to be intentional.


We are so caught up in our own lives that we fail to see the lives of those around us.

It’s never too late to see those around you, and reach out to love them.  If you do hospitality well, may God continue to open your eyes to see even more clearly the people that need to be loved.  But, if you feel too busy, too stressed, too tired, too whatever, just take a step and open your heart and your home to those around you.  Strive to be Mary, and choose what is better.  Your dinner table will never be the same, and neither will you.

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Blessed to be His,




12 thoughts on “Our dinner table will never look the same…

  1. Betty Jones

    So GOOD to hear from you! It’s exciting to ‘journey’ with you through that beautiful land–and share your challenges, new experiences, and Blessings! You are all in my daily prayers: thanking God for His care and provisions, and seeking His continued guidance and JOY as you walk every step with Him!
    I’m especially missing you as we are begin Confirmation classes this week.

    1. Sarah Post author

      Great to hear from you! Thank you for your reply and thank you so much for your prayers. We feel them day in and day out. We are praying for all of you as you begin this year’s journey with the Confirmation class. He will bless it greatly! Miss you much, and look forward to hearing more from you!

  2. Betty Jones

    It’s easy to imagine how beautiful your new ‘home-land’ is just from the few pictures you’ve already sent! It’s also apparent to see the beautiful the new relationships you’re building there. God is Good! Thanks for the updates–it’s so good to keep in touch. (I will admit to some tears, but they’re mixed with Joy in the Lord) A new dimension to confirmation this year: we’re offering Wed. night classes for parents (or anyone interested) studying the same material their children will receive on Sunday. Also, our Sunday School family members will all be memorizing the same verse–one a month. (Of course, you know I would prefer one a week:) , but it’s a start!) Love you ALL! Betty (Zephaniah 3:17)

    1. Sarah Post author

      Betty, thanks for the note. It is an amazing land. Very diverse. Right now it is very dry as we wait for the rainy season to arrive. It is tough to see people trying to raise cattle and survive in the rural areas this time of year. About 20-30 minutes down the road from Calacali, where we will be moving, it is lush and green. Yet, Calacali is extremely dusty and dry right now. Just depends on what side of the mountain you are on!

      I think the Wednesday night class is a great addition to the Confirmation curriculum. And, the bible verse as well. Monthly is better than none, right? 🙂 Thanks so much for loving on all those kids and being a godly example to them. You have touched many, many lives, Mrs. Jones. You are an angel on earth.


  3. Gloria Flaa

    Profound thoughts Sarah! I was very much convicted as I read through your post. I wish we were at your dinner table in Ecuador 🙂 Hey, someday soon let’s pray!! PK and Gloria

    1. Sarah Post author

      I wish you were at my dinner table, too!!!! Miss you guys so much! Yes, yes, yes, to prayer and touching base. We’ll be gone later this week out to Calacali with no internet, but will figure out a plan of when we can pray together. Know that you guys are being lifted up continually, along with the entire staff, leadership, and congregation of Abiding Savior. Love you deep and wide…

  4. Bob&Judy

    Oh you guys. I can’t really put into words how proud we all are of you all. Every time I drive by Brad’s office I kinda let out a sigh….But also know when Our Lord takes “a hold” of your heart for His calling there’s no turning back. Pastor Kirk can testify to that. What a wonderful adventure. In such a beautiful place.Many prayers are covering you. We all so look forward to each post and are following every move. Miss your smiling faces at church but know your where you are needed and are meant to be. Warm fuzzy hugs to you.
    May your table need more and more chairs. In Christ Judy&Bob

  5. Sandy

    Sarah, hadn’t spent time to read this latest post but as I did, I think maybe you are getting things I have said to you in the past about trying to be “mom of the year” or “cooking all day just to have US over”, but your words are much more eloquent but the point being the same. I am glad for all of you that you are finding “your place” in God’s plan. Have to ask, have you run into a young college grad named Herman (spelled German) ? He is over there helping in a school that sounds very similar to yours. He is dating my niece. Prayers to you. Sandy

  6. Rebecca

    Oh how my heart longs for your family! These words are like a sweet salve to my spirit. Going through change and waiting is so difficult…but somehow reading your blog is helping me to refocus. We are doing well but so often feel alone in this journey. Not many others are undergoing similar changes. You are…and what you are doing is beautiful! These photos and experiences are doing an amazing work! Huge hugs and encouragement from the DeWit household! We love you!!!

  7. Liberty Aldrich

    I know this is an older post but I was just catching up on your blog — I love this one – amazing and inspiring — great words and great lessons!!! To lay down our lives and love, Lord help us truly give our lives as an offering and follow your example of not existing to be served but to serve – giving our lives in the short time we have on this earth and making eternal impact!! Blessings to you and your family!!!

    1. Sarah Post author

      Thanks for the comment, Liberty! So good to hear from you. How are you? Yes! You got it! It’s a daily challenge – looking out for others before ourselves. I fall into the trap many a time. But, I am starting to see things through different eyes and I hope others can as well. You’re so right – we are built to serve and life is short! We need to take action now. Stay in touch!


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